The New Rules of Aging & the Power of Menopause

Darcey Steinke talks about her personal experiences with menopause in her book Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life. However — before you think that it’s filled with talk only about hot flashes — you’re mistaken. While she did jot down some experiences with extreme hot flashes, she also documented how the two-year period was in other aspects along with the rules of the middle age.

The author Darcey Steinke
The New Rules of Aging & the Power of Menopause

Learning About the Changes Happening to Her Body

On a typical day, Darcy would have about eight to ten hot flashes, but they could also occur even be up to 20 times a day. Some everyday occurrences — like riding the NYC subway to sitting in a restaurant — would cause her to feel an immense amount of heat through her body. She would also have many sleepless nights where she would rush to the freezer to get bags of frozen veggies to calm her skin.

While they were difficult to deal with, Darcy also found them fascinating and recorded her episodes.

Discovering the New Rules of Menopause

Flash Count Diary: Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life
The New Rules of Aging & the Power of Menopause

Her book is more than just about hot flashes. It also discusses the spiritual, social, sexual, and emotional aspects of menopause. One of the rules that she mentions is that women should get used to not caring about what the world thinks.

She also mentions that even though women are likely to lose interest in their female gender as they get older by not propping it up, they shouldn’t limit themselves.

Steinke also believes that there is natural power in menopause because it brings opportunity.

Killer whales go through menopause and for them, post-menopausal life makes them more powerful as they eventually become leaders of their pods.

The rules that Darcey Steinke wanted to focus on were that menopause shouldn’t be the end for women or a vulnerable part in one’s life. Menopause comes with power and femininity — and it should be embraced.